I went to a party,And remembered what you said. You told me not to drink, Mom,so I had a sprite instead. I felt proud of myself,The way you said I would,that I didn't drink and drive,though some friends said I should. I made a healthy choice,And your advice to me was right. The party finally ended,and the kids drove out of sight. I got into my car,Sure to get home in one piece.I never knew what was coming, Mom,something I expected least. Now I'm lying on the pavement,And I hear the policeman say,the kid that caused this wreck was drunk,Mom, his voice seems far away. My own blood's all around me,As I try hard not to cry. I can hear the paramedic say,this girl is going to die. I'm sure the guy had no idea,While he was flying high.
Because he chose to drink and drive,now I would have to die. So why do people do it, MomKnowing that it ruins lives? And now the pain is cutting me,like a hundred stabbing knives. Tell sister not to be afraid, MomTell daddy to be brave. And when I go to heaven,put ' Mommy's Girl' on my grave. Someone should have taught him,That it's wrong to drink and drive. Maybe if his parents had,I'd still be alive. My breath is getting shorter,Mom I'm getting really scared. These are my final moments,and I'm so unprepared.
I wish that you could hold me Mom,As I lie here and die. I wish that I could say, 'I love you,Mom!' So I love you and good-bye. Cheers peeps!!! RaInBoW ChId
,3:05 AM
The Charm of Confidence.
How to improve your self-esteem?
Hi,people!Here is a post to share with everyone about self-esteem.
Are you confident about who you are ?
Do you have faith in what you do?
Are you satisified with your life?
Have you ever thought of becoming another person whom you highly look up to?
Well...from my point of view,more people nowadays
despite all sorts of successes that they may achieved in life,
it just do not means that they have grow in their self-esteem.
It is really something inside an individuals how we see ourselves.
There might be many kinds of reasons for a person to be low self-esteem,
perhaps a growing-up background,personal experiences,many failure
encounters etc.
Do you consider yourself to be of healthy self-esteem level?
Or do you find yourself often give in to others just because
you cant make a decision by yourself,no faith to handle
independently for the consequences and bear responsibilities
of a decision you made?You cant stand pressure thus You chose to escape.
Being over-apologetic can also be a significant "symptoms" to a low self-esteem "disease".
Personally,I find that young people nowaday are getting more low self-esteem.
In common term used,people might say they "emo".
Well...Maybe is their family background ,e.g broken family, they are facing a emotional struggles of insecurity.They are not quite steady to face any outside challenges as the family do not serve a strong support,which leads to their poor esteem.
The society is moving on and improving at fast pace.
People are getting less expressive as they have less time for self-communication.
Self-awareness seems to be very much reduced.
They are less aware of their own feelings,no time to settle their heart,
spend time to understand themselves,know what they truly thinks,
not willing to face up to the facts and be truthful to their own heart.
They just blindly trying their best in keeping up to the everchanging
trend of the world.
In the end,fall into the sense of lostness and loneliness.
Low esteem can be one suggested possible factors that leads to all this.
So how to improve self-esteem?
Want to know more about this topic of how to build better esteem?
Read on!!!!Let's check it out!!!!Be inspired!!!
What is self-esteem?
Self esteem is how you regard or value yourself in terms of your job, your accomplishments, your relationship with your peers and your family and your place in the society. It is actually the image you have of yourself. Having high self esteem means you have a high regard for yourself while low self esteem means you perceive no value of yourself.
People with high self esteem are usually people who are happy and confident. It is not about bragging about what you have or your accomplishments, but it is taking stock of what kind of person you are given all your facts in life.
Self esteem is an important trait of every individual because it influences and sometimes even determines success in your personal life and in your career. Having a high self esteem means you respect yourself, and it is most often the reason why others respect you.
A person with high self esteem will do the right thing even if exposed to the wrong set of people. A person who regards himself highly will not follow what other people are doing because he has his own discernment of what is right and wrong.
Self esteem grows on you, depending on how you were treated as a child. If you were encouraged or praised by your family while growing up, then you will probably have a high self esteem when you become an adult. However, there are people who may have high self esteem while growing up, but then later developed a low image of themselves because of certain factors.
Factors that lower self esteem
1. Divorce or separation-
A child who grew up in the right environment and with the right kind of people giving him support and encouragement will have a high self esteem. However, an incident like the divorce or separation of his parents will most likely shatter the child's high image of himself, and he could end up blaming himself for the separation. He will then go into a vicious cycle of looking down on himself and of treating others differently because of such an incident.
2. Physical attributes-
A child who is on the chubby side while growing up may be considered as cute
by his family and friends and so the frequent encouragement and praise will help
him develop high self esteem.However, as he grows older, his environment changes
and then he is exposed to the reality that society generally frowns on people who are on the heavy side. This creates confusion and identity crisis which may lead to self pity and the development of a low self image.
3. Rejection-
A child who grew up with supportive parents and siblings will most likely become an
adult with a high self esteem. However, constant exposure to critical people who insult
him and criticize him may create a dent in his high self image. His comfort zone is now
gone and there is a possibility that he will be rejected by other people who are not so
kind or who may have very high standards.
A person's self esteem will serve as his defense and survival kit against the competitive nature of society. Growing up with a high self esteem will already be an advantage because such a person already knows his true value. However, he must keep close contact with the people who really matter to him to maintain his self worth, and avoid people who will try to ruin his self image.
Effects of low self esteem
People who grew up in a very critical environment, where achievements are rarely praised and where faults are given more emphasis will most likely have a very low self esteem. Among the effects of a low self esteem are:
1. It can cause anxiety and depression.
A person with a low self esteem is always concerned about pleasing other people.
The more he tries to make other people happy, the more he becomes depressed
and unsure of himself. And when he becomes unsure of himself, he will take this as
a negative attribute, leading to a lesser self worth. It goes on and on until he does not anymore have a clear view of himself as a person.
2. Result in a setback in a person's performance in school or his career goals.
A person who thinks less of himself will more likely have very low grades. If already
working, a person with low self esteem will experience some difficulty in his career as
he could not even perform his ordinary responsibilities well.
3. Create tension in a person's relationship with other people.
Because he looks down on himself too much, this person cannot maintain a healthy
relationship. He thinks he is lower than anybody and he is not worth loving.
4. Lead to any form of dependency problems. (e.g emotional dependency)
Many people who have very low regard for themselves get into drugs because they look at
substance abuse as the only way to confirm their existence. Others become alcoholics, opting
to become intoxicated rather than confront the difficulty of facing one's self.
People with low self esteem or low self worth have very little or no self confidence at all. A single mistake, no matter how small, will always be blown out of proportion. A person with low self esteem will always blame himself for anything that happens regardless of the factors involved in the incident.
A person who has low self esteem is fragile and can be easily influenced by people who take advantage of other people's frailty. While self esteem has its roots in a person's childhood there is still a chance to develop the self worth of adults who treat themselves as lesser mortals. However, it will take an extra effort and determination, as well as a good support group before one can achieve this.
This is a post to share about growing our self esteem.
I read this from this website which I think is quite useful
Hope you all like this post and continue to read our blog updates.Dun forget to tag if you have any comments or feedbacks. =)
~RaInBoW~
Tuesday, November 11, 2008,7:29 AM
Think before Complaining...
Cheers!!!
RaInBoWz ChIlD
,4:06 AM
How can we build Perfect Relationship...?
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.' There was silence. She repeated,'PUB.'
There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice,'Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry,I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is.'
A man asked his father-in-law, 'Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?' The father-in-law answered in a smile, 'Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong.
Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.'
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU,
and requested 'I am looking for a spouse.
Please help me to find a suitable one.' The SDU officer said,
'Your requirements, please.'
'Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable,
good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the
whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out.
Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for
conversation and be silent when I want to rest.'
The officer listened carefully and replied, 'I understand you need TELEVISION.'
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife
and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market.
On the way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride
on the donkey? 'Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented,
'The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented,
'How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.' The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, people,do not be too bothered by others words
if our conscience is clear.. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------
BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of
his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old
son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones,
he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands.
When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs,
he innocently said, 'Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck.' Then he asked,
'but when are my fingers going to grow back?' The father went home &
committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet
or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience
with someone u love. Trucks can be re! paired.. Broken bones &
hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference
between the person and the performance.
We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
What is the difference between good friends and BG relationship? Can boy and girl really be good friends with one another?
The thing is many times when there are boy and girl together, there will always people from other angle judging them as 'Having BGR'. Than after which, they tend to advoid each other without any reason besides the view from outsiders. The truth is 'A real friend is one who walks in when/although the rest of the world walks out'.
However, there are many boys and girls after having 'Good Friends Relationships', they tend to treat that as BGR or maybe one of them treated that as BGR. After a short time period, both of them or one of them came into a conclusion that they love each other and soon dating together... and maybe they break up when they realise they are just infactuation with each other. Maybe...
In conclusion, I find that a boy and a girl can be good friends or even best friends. The problems lies in the trust and what they think of one another. Others can judge u by another view, but the final decision still the view from ur perspective.You can choose to listen to others' idea or your own idea. The judgement is still lies within yourself. What u do reflects who u are. "People don't care how much u know till they really know how much u care for them". Start a good term relationship with one another instead of worry about what will happen next and advoid being with friends with the opposite sex friends. The key is to 'Listen'. Last but not least, DON'T THINK TOO FAR!!!
CHEERS EVERYONE!!!
with love, RaInBoWz ChIlD-LaUrEl
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